September 2014

Couples Communication: Listening Without Reacting

From the category Five Minute Articles For Your Consideration

We often associate communication with what is being said and not with what is being heard.  Research shows (Adler, R. et. al., 2001) that we spend approximately 30% more time listening than talking in communication, yet listening is far less understood.  It doesn’t matter how good a communicator you are if nobody hears what you’re saying.  One of the main differences between talking and listening is that you cannot prepare to listen.  Continue Reading


4 Ways For You To Think Like A Therapist

From the category Five Minute Articles For Your Consideration

It’s not that difficult to think like a therapist.  A lot of it is just common sense.  It’s not about knowing who is right or wrong, it’s about applying critical thinking to situations, having a good understanding of contextual information, knowing the role of empathy, staying current and relatable and being naturally curious.  The art of doing psychotherapy, on the other hand, requires a lot of skill but thinking like a therapist can make a big difference right now in how you manage your problems. Continue Reading


Can Karma Dance?

From the category Concepts In Motion

The short answer is, yes it can.  However, to understand the motion of karma we have to view it in contrast to its close cousin, Determinism.

The philosophy of Determinism states that everything we do is directly related to our previous actions.  In this way all of our actions hang together like unbroken links in a chain.  Viewed three dimensionally, the links are influenced by our genetics, environmental factors and our personality makeup.  Continue Reading